This is Will
Will runs this store:
in El Segundo:
Will fixed this stick:
when someone helps me out financially, I am overjoyed and relieved! Without Will’s discount, Ezra would not be playing lacrosse.
Thank you Will and South Swell Sports! You have my loyalty!
© 2011 Kim Hamer
But some money in an envelope, address is and send it!
I love Pinterest!
However, giving or receiving money can be super awkward! How do you give money without insulting the person or without all that ooey over gratitude they lavish on you. How does someone receive money without feeling shame or guilt? Or like they don’t deserve it?
The person you care about can refuse the money if you try to hand it to them. However, if they get it in the mail, with no return address, they will have to either give it away or spend it. Hopefully they do that latter!
If this had been a check, I would never have used it. But it’s cash and if I don’t use it, then I have to give it away and frankly, I need it! I am grateful to my anonymous friend who knew exactly what I needed and made it easy for me to accept it!
Ann, LA
as she was showing me the $500 someone sent her
© 2011 Kim Hamer
The Holidays have passed and yet the tree or the menorah or the lights are still up.
After the holidays comes — the clean up. For the person in crisis, with the end of the festive season often comes the reality that the person they love is still sick or not here.
The post-holiday blues affect many of us, but can be pretty harsh for those in crisis. Life goes back to normal except that their lives are a new normal that is not very pleasant.
Putting the decorations back in the box after Art died was like another smack in the face. Nope, he’s not coming back. It made me feel the loss that much more deeply. Kim, Los Angeles.
And be sure to bring a box of tissues…just in case.
© 2011 Kim Hamer
for their mom, dad, sibling or whoever the ailing person may be!
When a family member is in crisis, a child often feels powerless. It’s not fun for adults. It’s not fun for kids plus it’s hard for them to take action. So if their child is 4 or older, offer them super powers! Take the child out to buy a gift for the person-in-crisis.
Power is of two kinds. One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love. Power based on love is a thousand times more effective and permanent.
Mohandas Gandhi (Get quotes here)
Give so a child can give.
© 2011 Kim Hamer
If you are flying to Florida through Detroit, you should pack both.
Planning for travel during the holidays takes brain power. For the person-in-crisis, that brain power is being used up by emotional hardship. Your brain power, while holiday stressed, is not nearly as taxed.
They may be resistant at first, saying they have it under control.
Be intrepid. Point out although they have done it many times before, this time is not like other times.
Let them know if they need a little help with making decisions about what to pack or how much of it, you are offering your sounding board, great-packer skills.
A person in crisis often doesn’t see how “in-crisis” they are. Sometimes it takes a gentle (or not) push for them to see that it will be easier if you help.
Offer more than once! One offer DOES NOT SINK IN. Be fearless and consistent. Remember, your offering will make it easier for them to ask you for something else.
Helping a friend with cancer can be as easy as “I think you may need more than one pair of underwear for your trip.”
© 2011 Kim Hamer
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