My name is Kim Hamer.
This was our family.
This is our family now.
On April 16, 2009 my husband lost his life to cancer. Our three children were 7, 9 and 12 at the time. Click here to read about the journey from cancer caregiver to young widow.
Pre- and post- death, several communities swooped in to care for all of us.
What I discovered was:
all acts of kindness are worthy,
some were a LOT more helpful than others.
I realized that so many people don’t know what to say, what to do or what kinds of help to offer. A person in crisis is usually not capable of giving much guidance. Many people, afraid they’d do the wrong thing, did nothing at all. (I used to be in that group!)
This blog was born to give you ideas on how to help your friend or family member deal with a life changing event.
Please know two really important things.
YOU are really important to your friend.
YOU have the power to help them heal.
You can’t fix it. You can’t make it go away, but you can smooth the journey ever so slightly. In the end, I think that’s what matters the most. When Art died, the prospect of raising three kids on my own and managing my overwhelming grief, left me feeling like a piece of wet noodle on a stone cold kitchen floor, cold, exhausted with no strength to move on. It is because of the many simple acts of love our friends, family and co-workers committed that I am now embracing our good, new life.
I launched 100ActsofLove so that you could find a small way to make a big impact on the life of your friend.
Here you will find tips on:
what to say
and what to do
so you can be truly helpful in any crisis.
Above all, I found that those who were:
impacted our family for the better.
Taking helpful and meaningful action when someone is in crisis is not easy because we think it’s about making a big statement. It’s not. I am here today because of the 100 Acts of Love shown to me, really the 1,345 Acts of Love. Most of them were so small and each of them laid a smooth brick for our new path.
YOU have the power to help your friend heal.