My name is Kim Hamer. This was our family.
This is our family now.
On April 16, 2009 my husband lost his battle with cancer. Our three children were 7, 9 and 12 at the time.
You may want to read my story to learn more about the journey from cancer care giver to young widow.
When my husband was sick, I was surprised to find we were part of several strong communities. All of them swooped in to care for us both while he was sick and after he died.
What I discovered was:
all acts of kindness are worthy, but some were a LOT more helpful than others.
I realized that so many people don’t know
- what to do,
- what to say or
- what kinds of help to offer.
To top it all off, many are afraid they’ll do the wrong thing so….they do nothing instead. I used to be in that group!
There is something I want you to know:
You are really important to your friend, your co-worker or your family member …very, very important.
You have an incredible power to support and to help them heal.
When Art was diagnosed and after he died I was overwhelmed with grief and the prospect of raising three kids on my own. Almost everything our community did for us helped us along the road to this new life.
I started Exactly What They Need
so you could do the same for the person in your life, help them along the difficult road they are on.
Exactly What They Need offers ideas and advice on
what to do,
what to say and
how to help someone you love who’s in crisis ….any kind of crisis.
Taking helpful and meaningful action when someone is in crisis is not easy.
They may not seem like they really need you. But they do and your actions can mean the world to them.
YOU have the power to help someone through a difficult time. This website was set up to help you do that.
YOU are amazing.