In who you are and what you mean the person you want to help.
When was the last time you told your friend why you liked them?
When was the last time you said “I like you because……”
Friendships are based on non-words. They are based on laughter and No-ways! and I’m-so-glad-for-yous and No-he-didn’ts and I’d-do-the-same-thing. Rarely do we sit down and tell a friend why we love them.
So when your friend is in crisis, have FAITH that they have you in their life for a reason
Then take that faith and act on it. If your looking for back slaps and thank yous, remove those expectations. Friendships are not about getting credit. They are about sharing, doing and just being exactly who you are.
It’s been two years since my husband died and I am just now remembering what my friends did for me, how they just were who I they are. Their being grounded me.
Kim, Los Angeles
Your friend needs YOU, not some action, some dish or some errand. Just you. You’re a human being, not a human doing!
Mi casa may be su casa but your groceries may not be their groceries.
Go grocery shopping for them
But before you go off, note what brands they typically buy. (If you’ re Skippy Gal then Jiff just won’t do!) In fact, it may just add to your stress!
Put together a specific shopping list that includes the brand names of the food they usually eat.
Go through their food cabinet or take them with you to the store, one time, to get it right! Know that all future shopping helpers will love, love, just love you! Now they won’t have to decide worry about calling the family to see if they want Capn’ Crunch or the store brand.
Grocery shopping is as personal as our finger prints.
And the person you are doing this for will love you even more!! There is nothing worse (well there are many things worse but…) than having someone do you a favor, like grocery shopping but then feeling rude and ungrateful because you bough Skippy and she really is a Jiff girl!