Category Archives: Help at Home
How to Help In a Crisis: Way #74 Be Her Cleaning Supply Closet
Buy her one set of everything she normally uses and bring it to her house. That way … whether she is cleaning or someone is doing it for her, she has the types of cleaning supplies she is used to. Nothing says calm like a house that smells like you think it should! [...]
READ THE RESTThis is my new bed
One year after Art died, I sold our bed. My mattress has been on the floor ever since. I tried to find something else but my heart was never in it..until a few days ago. This is my new bed. Another step into my widow-life. Almost four years after Art died, I am surprised [...]
READ THE RESTHow to Help In a Crisis Contined: Way #70 Be Her Message Taker
This job is even more important if someone has died because many people will express their love via phone or email. Buy these notepads here. Her listening to or reading all of those messages is exhausting! Be her message taker. First, make a plan on how you will get those messages to her. For voicemails, [...]
READ THE RESTHow to Help in a Crisis: Way #68 Pay For A Housekeeper
Housekeeping a completely unappreciated job. Joan Benet 1939. The Housekeepers Daughter Without it, many American toilets would have the ring-o-mold. Which is almost as bad as the kiss of death. If she has a housekeeper that only comes once a month, offer to pay for the housekeeper to come more often. Share the extra costs [...]
READ THE RESTHow to Help In a Crisis: Way #67 Mow Her Lawn (or shovel snow…as the case may be.)
Here in LA many of us have gardeners. (Trust me, it is not as extravagant as it sounds.) The “properties” they tend are about the size of the original mini cooper. And the reason we don’t do it ourselves? We have no place to store a lawn mower! Our garages are full of crap! [...]
READ THE RESTHow to Help In a Crisis: Way #64 Do Laundry
A friend of mine, once confessed “I love doing laundry.” I thought she was weird. Laundry needs to get done, even in a crisis. Either do it in her home or take it to your home. But be aware! This is not the time to decide to try out that great smelling detergent unless she [...]
READ THE RESTHow to Help In a Crisis: February is House Help Month!
A crisis wreaks havoc on a home. Usually the house slides into disarray unless they are fortunate enough to have help that shows up frequently. If she is a keeper-of-stuff, you will find more stuff being kept. If she is tidy, you find the place not so tidy. Buy this apron here. Helping out at [...]
READ THE RESTWay #83 Help Her Order Her Gifts Online
If she has a list prepared, order items online for her. You can go to multiple sites and order multiple things and be her hero. Most times, shopping online requires concentration and decision-making. Two things your friend in crisis is probably a little short on. Option 1: Discuss how you will do it, use her [...]
READ THE REST#129 Leave Hope On Their Door Step
After Art died, 25 hours of the day were filled with despair. (It felt more like 29 hours) But every Friday morning, an acquaintance of mine named Karen would place fresh flowers from the farmer’s market on my doorstep. She never knocked, even when my car was in the driveway. I would open the door [...]
READ THE REST#30 Have Faith…
In who you are and what you mean the person you want to help. When was the last time you told your friend why you liked them? When was the last time you said “I like you because……” Friendships are based on non-words. They are based on laughter and No-ways! and I’m-so-glad-for-yous and No-he-didn’ts and [...]
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